This provocative truth about men

may surprise you.

When it comes to their relationships with partners men need (and crave) respect more than love. 

Shocking? Perhaps. 

We're taught to believe love conquers all, right?  Walt Disney has conned the world with its million dollar idea.

While many men feel the love (and very often it is true deep love)  from their wife, mother, or daughter—they will often be left questioning if they are genuinely liked. 

Are they appreciated for who they are and what they bring to the lives of their loved ones?

You see men (generally) place a higher value on respect than on love itself. 

This isn't to diminish the power of love—and it still remains undoubtedly essential—but if you love your man deeply yet do not respect him, then it will not land as deeply fulfilling for him.

I often hear from men who sense their female partners love them, yet they feel belittled and undervalued in daily interactions. Sharp tones, critical words, and being treated like a subordinate or a child are common complaints. This isn’t just about nagging; it's about a fundamental lack of respect.

Even if he knows, deep down, that these same women would stand by him through thick and thin, this shadow of disrespect can seed deep-seated resentment

This dynamic often unfolds in the nuances of our interactions. When communication skews harsh, critical, or condescending, it can leave a man feeling less than respected, like he's perpetually falling short of expectations or being seen more as a perpetual project than a partner. Even if he knows, deep down, that these same women would stand by him through thick and thin, this shadow of disrespect can seed deep-seated resentment.

For men, love, in its richest form,

needs to be woven with threads of deep respect.

Without respect, love can start to feel hollow, as if it's given out of obligation rather than a genuine celebration of who he is, his opinions he has cultivated and what he brings to the table.

Men who feel disrespected will often spend the relationship harboring resentment. 

This dynamic is deeply damaging to the relationship, turning potential lifelong partnerships into battlegrounds of resentment and misunderstanding.

Or they will leave the relationship.

Even if they know their partner loves them. 

They will very likely leave due to being disrespected.

They know these women would stand by them in crisis—sickness or injury—but the everyday lack of respect eats away at the foundation of their relationship.

 It’s a subtle erosion, a daily dismissal of their value and autonomy.

It is an integral part of the male psyche that feeling respected is intertwined with feeling loved.

 Without respect, love feels conditional, like it's given out of obligation or habit, not genuine desire or appreciation. 

A woman needs and craves to be cherished

by her man whilst a man needs and craves

to be respected by his woman.

In my conversations, women often interject, rightfully asserting their need for respect too. I hear you, and absolutely, you deserve that.

 But here’s the deeper cut: respect alone doesn’t quench your thirst.

 Women need to feel cherished. That’s the secret sauce, the magic elixir. When you're truly cherished, that's when you feel completely seen, valued, and fulfilled. It’s not just about mutual respect—it's about being adored and held in reverence. That’s the difference-maker, the game-changer in feeling not just respected but deeply loved.

For men, respect isn't just a component of a relationship; it's the cornerstone. They might tolerate being with someone who respects them without deep love—though far from ideal—over being with someone who loves them but consistently shows disrespect.

This hierarchy puts respect at the pinnacle of their relationship needs, highlighting how critical it is for them to feel valued and acknowledged first and foremost.

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Melissa Louise

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